By Allen Olatunde
Parents are natural guide and coach for children. They see things in a different way above and better than the children. Some parents, beside their roles as tutor, enforce their wishes on ward because of:
1. Dignity and prestige a particular career has in the society
2. Family dynasty of a career.
3. Shame and penury attached to some careers.
4. Illiterate and ignorance of the parents.
5. Their friends' children also choose the career.
6. The future risk and threat on job security.
7. Wrong advice.
8. The joy of having a child at the stage of choosing career.
9. Little information about the career.
10. Spiritual intonation and divinity.
11. Traits and skills discovered when the child was a kid
12. Singleness and divorce pain
13. Vengeance on the child’s disloyalty - payback moment
14. Deliberate confusion
15. Others.
Parents/guardians are not always right. It is a fact. The ability to guide a child to a successful career makes a parent right. Career is life. Any mistake done will be managed for life. Before a parent can talk about choosing a career for a child, he/she/they must know that they are the best coach on the best pitch (home), seasonal tutor from birth, initiator of good ideas, and positive passion stirrer. If they know this, they will take time to invest in the child before the time of choosing career comes near.
Parents/guardians have functional roles to play in choice of career. They are:
o Parents/guardians are to watch out for the best of their children from cradle to adolescent under close and open supervision with purpose of having solid facts to guide.
o Parents/guardians are to discover the peak of the strength and the weak point of their children in order to help to improve before choice of career comes up.
o Parents/guardians are to promote enthusiastic level, strong passion and enabling environment for their children through provision of educational materials, related video and audio documentaries, visitation to the office of a specialist on the class of ambition of your child and constant revision at home.
o Parents/guardians are to study to compare the intellectual and academic performance of the child to the personality traits/skills displayed at home, for inborn traits have great impact in choosing career.
o Parents/guardians are to guide the children according to the child's passion, not to enforce.
o Parents/guardians are to pray for God's leading every time issue of career comes up. We need to be careful at this point. If a parent is a spiritist, there will be imposition. Pray to God without any rituals and trust God for divine leading according to His word.
Parents see the future to talk. The children dream the future to choose. Therefore, the parent should guide from the rear end to meet the child at his/her crossroad to have equilibrium decision for a successful career. Nevertheless, if as a student you have hard and bossy parent that enforces a career on you, I have these advices for you.
1. Do not fight back.
2. Do not insult your parents.
3. Do not say “they hate me”, “they are not my good parents”, “they are wishing me evil”, etc.
4. Be calm and be reasonable with their choice of career for you. God uses parents to guide their children.
5. Seek professional advice from your teacher, school counselor or anyone on the class of your ambition.
6. Show your passion and love for the career through your inventions, discoveries, habitual reading, comments, discussions and relationships at home and in the school.
7. Study hard – this is a crystal clear measure to vindicate you.
8. Prove your choice of career through good results in the school.
9. Provide materials that can educate your parent about your career – the good, the bad and the ugly that are manageable.
10. Re-table the career issue with your parent again when they are happy with you.
11. Pray at all times over the issue that God will guide your parents/guardians to lead you aright.
Allen Olatunde
The Career Blogger
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