HEALING FOR THE BLIND PARENTS

BY ALLEN OLATUNDE

“Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch” (Matthew 15:14)

In the midst of crisis, everyone looks for whoever that will save or redirect unto safe haven. So also is the relationship of parents to children especially teenagers who look up to the guiding parents for values and principles for life. It is a pity today that some parents are purely blind, though they have physical sight but cannot differentiate what is right from wrong. Parenting is more than changing of status quo - having names such as ‘Dad’, ‘Mum’, Father of …” etc.  It is a ministry of role modeling of future leaders. Parents are leaders. It is expected of a leader to lead with clarity of vision, purpose, direction and will-power that is sandwiched with values and integrity.

However, we have blind leaders as parents who do not see what their children do as wrong. They have accusing fingers for other children in their churches, schools, neighbourhood and society, but they never see anything wrong in their own children. Wrong is renamed right in their homes. Such parents are absolutely blind to plans of God for such children in their care. They are ostrich who buries her heads under the feather and she forgets that the whole body is outside. They ignore what they know is wrong.  They capitalize on minority. They fight anyone who guides and correct their children. They are modern parents with wrong civilization. They have these ideologies: “It doesn’t matter”, “They are still small”, “It is their time”, etc.


Home is the first school where teenagers get first lessons of life. If the school has poor and blind teacher, that student is a failure already. What you do not know, you cannot teach it. Only what is best to you will form your curriculum. On public occasions, it is not difficult to recognize the blind parents, because the effect will be seen on the children on what they put on, make up and act on. God is angry with this generation of evil pampering. God’s agenda is wider than your household; it is worldwide. God wants to showcase children that will save their country and beyond, but not from the blind cottage. When a blind raises a blind, it is clear that the agenda of such child will base on darkness mission; corruption, lies, malpractice, etc. Some parents even pay for miracle centers where help will be given to their wards for cheap results. Some parents refuse to caution their children who bring in live questions (WAEC), opposite sex and bad films to the house. They are time bomb; it will explode one day. Dark mind has no conscience when evil is done. However, these children are innocent but you form wrong ideologies in them because you refuse to allow God in your life. Nudity is everywhere; church, street, schools, parties, etc. Some parents buy these clothes for them. They never check their wardrobe for once. They use to say, “This is my daughter, my only daughter…” Heaven is regretting your parenthood; even Nigeria is not on your side.

Some parents are after career development without moral upbringing. Your doctor Child can be great but

lack character - such will be involved in abortion, smoking, womanizing, drug-addiction, etc. When a leader has character that is formed from childhood (integrity, modesty and godliness), there is no pretense in public. Such child cannot be tricked or manipulated by the corrupt minds around him/her. Nigeria has leaders who cannot speak the truth because they want to maintain political office as a result of ill-values registered in their minds at teen age. I used to hear that “We are the leaders of tomorrow.” I know that leaders are made from previous leaders. Then, who will make us the leaders of tomorrow? Are these corrupt, blind, seared conscience parents who are after their status quo of parenthood alone? Are these parents who displayed fashion as the only value for life? Or the parents who have never display integrity for once on matter of money in the house? Or the parents who fight to show the best fighter of the year? Are these mammon called parents who have sold their eternity to parties? According to Gbile Akanni, I quote “The blessing of a nation or a people is tied to the quality of leadership she has. A leader who is prisoner of his/her conscience cannot stand up to defend righteousness among the people he/she is leading.”

If you are among the blind parents, there is healing in repentance. If you can retrace your step back as Jesus’ parent did. They journeyed back three days to Jerusalem because they lost contact with Jesus on assumption. If you are assuming parenthood (that you are not), now is the best time to repent. First, discover your purpose for living through submission to Christ’s Lordship. Second, discover what you do that is not right and replace with right values. Third, learn from other parents who are doing it right. Fourth, test your sight with evaluation strategy in your home. Last, renew your commitment to life-building principles that will lead to nation-building through your children. Always remember, you are a steward in that home; accountability is fast approaching.

My advice to parents: Assume the role of a coach for your children. Read Bible and books on parenting. Attend seminars to learn more on teen parenting. Rebuke wrongs; the children will later love you. Dress to show modesty. Talk to show moderation. Relate to show pure love. Work to show diligence. Worship to show God as He is. Serve to teach selflessness and sacrifice. Give to prove charity. Choose friends to save character. Go to where you pray they should go. Aim a target with pure conscience. Pray to show dependence on God alone.

Jesus said, “Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind. And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.” If you ignore these words, the future of your children, society and the nation at large is at stake. Do what you want your children to do. May God grant you sight to see clearer as you lead the children to the stardom of greatness.

Pastor Allen Olatunde
School Chaplain
08032346674
allen.olatunde@gmail.com